21
Jun

Happy Fathers Day

   Posted by: Sonny   in God, Holiday

fathers_day_sunsetMy Dad’s name was Bill Cable.  He was not my biological father but he adopted me when I was only two years old and I never knew or met the man that was there when I was conceived.  He is a father also, to me and others later, I heard, so I hope he has a great day also if he still lives.  But he was not my Dad.  Bill Cable was.

I did not even know that I was adopted until sometime in my fourteenth year.  And Bill never gave me any reason to even think it.  I have a sister and two brothers that he was the biological father of but there was never any favoritism.  Well, actually there might have been at times, but it was favoritism towards me.  He loved me as much as or seemingly even more sometimes as any of us.

He was a small man.  Standing only 5′ 2″ tall and weighing about 125 pounds, I still remember him having me sit in his lap when I got out of the Army at six feet tall and 185 pounds.  It was ridiculous looking probably but I am smiling just thinking about it.  My eyes are a little watery also.

Bill Cable, my Dad, died in 1991 at the age of 55.  Much too young and way too early to go.  I miss him.  I don’t talk about it much but before Jesus introduced Himself to me there was no other person on this planet that I felt comfortable telling my deepest secrets, fears, dreams, and thoughts to than my Dad.  I never have been a very open person and have just started growing into it in the last few years even to the degree I am now.  But my Dad would listen, never judge, and tell me like he saw it.  It was not always comfortable but it was real.  How many people tell anyone anything real anymore?  Not enough.  At least not in my life or experience.

Even though I had the best example for a loving father, not a perfect man by any means, but a real, truly loving man which is what really matters, that anyone could have, I still blew it when it came my time.  I have six children.  Five of them are sons that are not mine biologically.  While I do believe I loved them a long time ago, I know I did not do it the right way.  Some of it was me, some was the enemy of all of our souls, but mostly it was my lack of belief that that enemy or God was real.  My Father, God, has and still is, changing me.  I thank Him for that most of all because I do not like who I used to be.

We all have a Father in heaven, whether we have one here or not.  And He is good and gracious and merciful and loving, but most of all He is real.  And He tells us like it is.  If we will only listen.

If you have a father here, let him know you love him and appreciate him today.  Even if he was or is not who you think he should be, he is your father.  And who among us is who our Father, God, wants us to be anyway.  And if you are a father, then be the best one you can be while you still have time.

Happy Fathers Day to all and Dad, I miss you and love you.

Love you all

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5 comments so far

john
 1 

Happy FATHERS DAY Sonny….love you

June 21st, 2009 at 12:55 am
 2 

Same to you John

Love you

June 21st, 2009 at 9:43 am
Chris
 3 

For those of you who do not know (hopefully most do) that Sonny is my dad. Once again not biological, but still a dad.

I have always called him Sonny, because I did have a biological father Jack Townley who I loved very much, and always called him dad. It was never anything against Sonny in any way, and I hope I have proven that over the years. I just didn’t call both of them dad. My girls have never met my real father, but they call him “Grandpa Jack” It is really cute. They call Sonny “Dah” or “Da” (still don’t know the spelling, sorry).

I lost my Dad when when I was eight. My mom and Sonny were already together at time. I don’t know where I am going with this, but it is hard to think about my Dad on Father’s Day or the Day after, or any day for that matter. It is hard to lose a parent, and especially when I was that young.

Getting back to Sonny, I have loved him as a father even before my dad died, but over the years the love continued to grow. Sonny was always there for me, even if he didn’t realize it, or if he had odd ways of dealing with things. I truly believe that he did it all out of love.

I truly love you Sonny, and am very proud to tell people you are my dad. I miss my real dad very much, but you have been there. You are not a replacement, but on your own level as my dad. I have been lucky enough to have two dads, and most people don’t get that opportunity.

As for Daddy Bill, he was awesome. I also loved him very much. Funny story about one night we were driving around, and didn’t have enough seats or seat belts, and we had to cram in. I don’t even remember exactly how old I was, but Daddy Bill actually sat in my lap as we drove around.

So Sonny sitting in his lap was amusing, but could you imagine a grown man sitting in the lap of a child. Just sharing.

I still don’t know where I am going with all of this, but maybe I should just say:

I love you Sonny, and miss you very much. Alyssa and Sara also love you very much. :hrts:

Love always: Chris

June 22nd, 2009 at 11:22 pm
 4 

I love you too, Son

June 23rd, 2009 at 12:20 am
Tammy
 5 

I have a wonderful dad. I have not experienced the loss as some of you have. I cannot even think of it, the pain is overwhelming.

I do want to say that a wise person once said, that as long as you are breathing it is not too late to right a wrong, show someone love or make amends! You cannot force another to forgive you, nor can you make their opinion of you perfect, but you can put forth effort!

My brother has the cutest saying… When someone is looking for something that is right in front of them…
It is right beside the E for Effort!

Sonny, you are an awesome husband and a very talented man. You are such a wonderful provider, which is not always financial, sometimes it is in an explanation, which is another of your marvelous gifts.
Love

July 3rd, 2009 at 11:33 am

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