Archive for the ‘Friendship’ Category

Mark Twain presents certain tenets in his novel Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, which a casual reader will not easily discern.  From social commentary to religious ideology, he blends humor, satire, and adventure into a statement and a critique about the issues of his time and our own.  A “gospel,” of sorts, is established by focusing on the religious themes Twain merges with the identity of his character, Huck Finn.  Huck’s religious beliefs, his gospel, are not as far off the mark as he believes.  A gospel is supposed to be “good news,” but the religious beliefs that many tout as truth cannot be construed as good news in any way.  The religious beliefs that Huck exhibits, even if he does not see them as such, are closer to the Gospel of Christ than many church-going, religious people demonstrate, both then and now.

Providence is a word that is uncommon in religious exhortation today.  Typically, people use words and phrases such as God’s will, plan, purposes, direction, and especially his activity in this world to allude to the idea of Providence.  God is supposed to be guiding, directing and controlling the events and circumstances that surround us all, according to a number of conflicting expositions.  The Widow Douglas, who is Huck’s guardian, and her sister, Miss Watson, each take their own opportunity to instruct him in their interpretations, as he divulges:

Sometimes the widow would take me one side and talk about Providence in a way to make a body’s mouth water; but maybe next day Miss Watson would take hold and knock it all down again. I judged I could see that there was two Providences, and a poor chap would stand considerable show with the widow’s Providence, but if Miss Watson’s got him there warn’t no help for him any more.  (115)

Huck recognizes the discrepancies between the two views in which he is instructed.  These two views, with many variations, are still influential today.  God’s love is manifest in some teaching, but his wrath, anger, and judgment are the defining characteristics in most.  Huck instinctively realizes that a god that is mostly angry is one which cannot be easily appeased.  As events in his life unfold, with his abusive father, an enslaved friend, and a perilous journey, Huck has to be wondering where and how this god is working in his life.

Christianity today, especially the southern flavor, has a lot to say about an eternal destination for all.  Heaven and hell, everlasting bliss or infinite torment, the good place or the bad, supposedly form a dichotomy with no alternative; however, there are a multitude of descriptions for either one being taught every Sunday morning.  The Widow gives Huck her description of the “good place,” and he informs us, “She said all a body would have to do there was to go around all day long with a harp and sing, forever and ever. So I didn’t think much of it” (110).  From the beginning of Christianity, heaven has been described as an ethereal realm of clouds and singing cherubs, a fantastic Oz-like domain of golden streets and bejeweled gates and walls, or a vast throne-room where everyone gathers to offer everlasting praise and adoration to the creator.  After establishing his view concerning the good place, and wanting no place in it, Huck asks the Widow if she thinks his friend, Tom Sawyer, will make it in, and she assures him that Tom will not.  Huck declares that he “was glad about that, because I wanted him and me to be together” (110).  Huck’s impression of the eternal destination the Widow describes does not suit his adventurous soul, and he instinctively grasps concepts concerning love, community, and brotherhood that most of the faithful fail to ascertain.  Huck’s love for Tom is even more important to him than where they might be headed.

The Grangerfords introduce Huck to hypocrisy in the manifestation of brotherly love.  The Grangerfords are a kindhearted, church-going family who take Huck in when a steamboat hits his raft, and he is separated from Jim, the runaway slave and his traveling companion on the journey down the river.  Huck attends a church service with the family and makes the following observations:

It was pretty ornery preaching — all about brotherly love, and such-like tiresomeness; but everybody said it was a good sermon, and they all talked it over going home, and had such a powerful lot to say about faith and good works and free grace and preforeordestination, and I don’t know what all, that it did seem to me to be one of the roughest Sundays I had run across yet.  (183)

The Grangerfords think the sermon is good, and they have a long discussion about some of the precepts of their religion, like faith, good works and others.  Huck says the sermon was about “brotherly love” and other “tiresomeness,” and he describes it as “pretty ornery.”  The preaching was ugly and unpleasant in his opinion, but Huck does believe in brotherly love, even if he does not recognize this fact.  Huck finds the whole day, in his words, rough.  Is it the subject matter of the sermon, or the discussion that follows by his foster family?  It is probably the hypocrisy of the Grangerfords and all the other religious folk that he has observed.  This same family who has taken him in and is having lively discussions about brotherly love and good works is at the same time in a deadly feud with their neighbors, the Shepherdsons.  Huck again recognizes the inadequacy of this revealed gospel.

Huck seems to grasp the important concepts from the bible as evidenced in his conversation with Jim about King Solomon’s ruling concerning a disputed child.  Jim believes Solomon is not wise at all when Solomon decrees that the child be cut in half to satisfy the claim of both women who profess to be the child’s mother.  But Huck understands the reasoning of Solomon; the true mother will love the child enough to give it up.  Huck intuitively grasps the essence of love.

In the bible, Paul instructs Timothy to command the people of Ephesus “not to teach false doctrines any longer or to devote themselves to myths and endless genealogies. Such things promote controversial speculations rather than advancing God’s work—which is by faith”  (1 Timothy 1:3-4, NIV).  On another occasion, when the Widow Douglass is telling Huck about Moses, he is excited in the beginning of the story but then “she let it out that Moses had been dead a considerable long time” (109).  Huck did not care to hear about Moses after this because he “don’t take no stock in dead people” (109).  There are many things that people of faith argue about: Should the creation account be understood as literal?  Was the biblical flood local or world encompassing?  What are appropriate dietary prohibitions?  Should I refrain from cutting grass on the Sabbath?  What should I read or watch for entertainment?  This agenda of exclusion comes from dead people, while the agenda of inclusion, the law of love, comes from someone living.  In stating that he takes no stock in dead people, Huck is standing beside Paul and discrediting those who exclude.  Huck understands the revelation, without acknowledging it as such, that the Old Testament is not the governing authority for true followers of Jesus.  Huck knows, subconsciously, that the Gospel of Christ is the only way to advance God’s work, and he unwittingly works for this cause.

Huck Finn’s crisis of faith comes when he feels the conviction of sin in his actions that involve helping Jim, a runaway slave, to escape.  He has grown very fond of Jim, but he feels that he is at the junction between heaven and hell.  He prays, then feels worse, and finally writes a note that will give Jim up to the slave’s owners.  Huck then achieves a sense of relief but is still not completely satisfied.  He again wrestles with his conscience.  He knows that he should obey the law and turn Jim in, which is good and should help in any bid for heaven, but he wants to help Jim, which is bad, and he believes this will land him in hell.  He stands at this juncture holding the note he has written and makes his decision.  He says to himself, “All right, then, I’ll go to hell” (246). Huck does not wholly divulge his beliefs regarding the netherworld, but they are probably in line with most of the teachings of the fundamentalist churches of the southern states today.  In choosing hell rather than turning Jim in, he believes he has sentenced himself to eternal torture in a lake of fire.  He understands that the fire will ravage him but never consume him.  This interpretation of a pain-ridden eternal destination for sinners is what most of the faithful convey to the masses, but Huck’s love for Jim, as well as his desire to help free him, actually allow Huck to make the truly righteous choice.  In choosing hell, and going against the predominant teachings of his day, Huck is really choosing heaven.

Mark Twain uses the character of Huck Finn to convey some of his own misgivings and solicitude about organized religion and what it conveys to the masses.  Twain’s allusions to these teachings and the bible provoke thought and consideration when they are held up against contemporary issues in any era.  Through Huck Finn’s moral growth and religious deliberation, Twain addresses a number of issues.  Is God in control?  How is he working in this present space and time?  Whose view is right about eternity?  What in the bible is really important?  Sin, choice, hypocrisy, love-what is the truth concerning these issues?

Huck Finn is a fourteen-year-old boy who is making life decisions that are more Christ-like than most bible-thumping, fundamentalist, southern Christians.  He does make mistakes in judgment, like when he allows Tom to torment Jim on a few occasions, but his love and concern for others is readily apparent.  He concludes rightly that a wrathful, vengeance-seeking god cannot be satisfied.  He perceives the hypocrisy embodied in the sermons and actions of the religious assemblies to which he is exposed.  Heaven, hell, and eternity are concepts he does not pretend to understand fully.   Jesus said, “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you” (Matthew 7:12 NIV), and Huck personifies this scripture.  Excluding his childish pranks, Huck does not want anyone to come to a bad end.  He never wishes harm on anyone, even those who do him harm.  Jesus, when asked what the greatest commandment was, replied, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.  This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments” (Matthew 22:37-40 NIV).  Huck never reveals any love for God, but his actions epitomize love for his neighbor.  In a time when it is considered right, moral, and even biblical to enslave a human being and treat him like disposable property, Huck makes a choice to burn in an ever-lasting hell rather than turn a friend back over to the institution of slavery.  The gospel, according to Huck, is simply love for others.  It is seeing humanity as a community of equals, all deserving the same treatment.  This is what Jesus tried to emphasize, the very thing for which he gave his life.  As far as Huck’s love for God, he ultimately proves it in his actionable love for his neighbor.  This is truly the gospel, and it is good news for all who love and are loved.

Just wanted to say hi and see if anyone was still out there that might read this.  I started this blog because a friend talked me into it and actually enjoyed the writing and the discussions that it prompted for about a year.  During that year I was sitting at home, doing nothing but getting fat, old and weak due to a lack of work.  Cabinets are hard to sell during this current economic situation.  This is what actually led to a major decision I made, also prompted by friends and my wife.  I enrolled in the University of Alabama at Birmingham as a pre-nursing major at the age of forty-nine.  Then my life changed drastically.

I had to quit teaching Sunday school and a Wednesday night adult class at my church.  I ultimately did not even have much time to attend church.  I also decided to check out some other denominations when I could, not looking for anything in particular, just wanting to see if any of the things I had read about in my studies for classes were true or false.  I also attempted to get as far as possible in my freshman year of college to free up my summer to try to find some work, completing 37 credit hours in these two semesters.  My wife and I have to rely on God more and more as the financial resources are finally gone.  We have seen some awesome signs of Christ in some of those we know and love during the past few months.  Thank God for his people.

We have had some personal tragedies during the past few months that have also affected our lives in ways that we could have never foreseen.  One occurrence in particular is life-changing and will never be over until we enter eternity.  Again, some of Gods children have been there for us and I believe they always will be.  I am thankful for the concern, the support and the prayers of these saints every day.

I want to write some more this summer if I have some time.  I need work though, so that will be my priority.  I start my second year of college in August if the money to pay our bills is available.  This post is short and rambling and is really just an attempt to re-enter the waters.  It is also a simple thank you to all that read this and know of our plight and continue to pray for us.  We covet these prayers. We know that God is here, even if he does not seem to be at times.  We need you, we need God, and we

Love you all

tues-town-ha-2lI have never had many people that I considered friends.  As a very self centered man that really did not like people I found it hard to ever grow really close to anyone.  For the last seven years, as I have grown in Christ, I have also come to realize that I very much need people in my life.  I need friends and I especially need close friends.

We all need someone that will truly love and care for us as we really are.  I am blessed to have at least one such friend in my life.  John Snyder is that friend and today is his birthday.  Happy birthday John and I hope it is a great one.  I love you.

But I want some feedback about friends and friendship today.  I hope it goes better than last week.

What qualities do you believe make a close friend?

How important is friendship in your life?

What do you expect out of a friend?

Comment in any way you like concerning friendship.  I am anxious to read your thoughts.

Love you all

Happy Thanksgiving.  A couple of days ago I asked you what you were thankful for.  We all have a multitude of things and people we are thankful and grateful for and depending on where we are in this life; what age, social status, employment situation, family dynamics, etc.; the things we are thankful for will change as time goes by. 

I am thankful to my God for saving me, for loving me when I was unlovable, for trusting me enough to put other souls eternity in my hands, for comforting and providing for me, for His instruction and guidance, and for the peace He has placed inside me that I truly do not understand.

I am thankful for my wife.  She probably does not know it at times but, she is the one who keeps me going.  What I do here, if not a part of my mission from God, is for her.  I want and need some things for myself but a lot of these things are for us.  I love sharing this time with her, this time in this short part of our eternal existence.  She does keep me going and she is more important to me than I could ever say. 

I am thankful that my kids are all still alive.  That’s all I will say about that right now.

I am thankful for my twelve beautiful grandkids.  They are all whole, smart, amazing and so very different from each other. They make me smile, and laugh, and want to be young.  I want to help make this world a better place for them because they have so much time ahead of them.  I miss a few of them tremendously because I do not get to see them very often.

I am thankful that I have a job and a house and food and a bed and all the necessities of life.  I am so blessed that I do not have to wonder where I will sleep or if I will eat today.  This nation may not be as great as it once was or as good, but it is still one of the greatest places to live in the world. 

I am thankful for my stuff.  My books, movies, computers, tools, furniture, and all the other little things that fill a life and a house and make it a home.  I find that even with the slow times in my work I have plenty to do and take up my time.  This blog for instance.

I, too, am thankful for chipotle.  And for barbecue and Cajun spices.  For marinara and teriyaki.  Food is wonderful and we live in a place and a time where we have an abundance of taste sensations that surpass any other time in history.  Thanks Heath for pointing this out because we really should not overlook even the seemingly mundane. 

One of the main things I am thankful for is friendship. 

Most of my life I loved myself more than anyone.  In fact I really didn’t love or like much of anybody and I never had more than one friend at a time.  Even then they were not friends as I know them now.  They were acquaintances that I kept around for those rare times when I got tired of myself.  Most of the time, I was perfectly happy with being alone.

All of that changed when I entered the Kingdom.  I started down a path of love and caring for others that has fundamentally changed me.  I crave and covet time and conversation with others.  I enjoy and learn from this conversation and all fellowship with my friends.  At one time I did not care about being a part of a group and now, it seems, I long for others to be around; to share in this wonderful testimony of God’s goodness. 

What is a friend?  The dictionary at Dictionary .com says this;

A friend is a lover, literally. The relationship between Latin am?cus “friend” and am? “I love” is clear, as is the relationship between Greek philos “friend” and phile? “I love.” In English, though, we have to go back a millennium before we see the verb related to friend. At that time, fr?ond, the Old English word for “friend,” was simply the present participle of the verb fr?on, “to love.”

Friendship is simply love.  And God’s love for me has just had to spill over and out and has allowed me to find true value in having friends. I am thankful for all of the friends I have found through Christ. 

There was the friend that was there daily for a while, allowing me to bounce thoughts and ideas off of him as I began the journey down this new path.  He never judged, but guided me back when I was in danger of straying.  He prayed for me and helped me.  He has moved on in this life but I know he is still my friend and I love him.

There are the many, many friends that have welcomed me into their church and their lives.  They ask about my welfare, encourage and challenge me in my walk with Christ, genuinely care and love me.  We discuss the things of God and the agenda for advancing the Kingdom.  We talk to each other, pray for each other, and look out for each other.  I did not use to see casual acquaintances as friends but now I do.  We are all even more than just friends, we are family.

Then there is the one that I would say is my best friend.  We are alike and also very different.  He challenges me in my thinking and ideology as I do his.  He sees things one way and I see them the other and sometimes there is even some pain.  I have hurt him and even though he doesn’t know it, he has hurt me.  But if there was no pain then there would be no love.  The very definition of real love has to have room for some pain. 

I have and never will intentionally hurt any of my friends and I know my best friend will never do that to me.  But we can only grow when we have cause and reason to see another side to things.  Real friends are not yes men.  A real friend will challenge you, frustrate you, and still be there for you.  That is something I never really understood in the past.  I believed a true friend would have to be like me, think the way I do, and have the exact same core values.

That is just not so.  The most rewarding friendship I have ever had is actually from the one that is exactly the opposite in most of these things.  But we seem to both be working towards a center.  And if Christ was anything, I believe He was the center, of that narrow path.

I will continue to say, write and teach the things that I believe to be the Truth.  But I expect all my friends to help keep me on that narrow path that leads to an eternity with my Savior.  None of these things are to hurt or cause pain but I know that sometimes they might.  To all my friends, thank you for being my friend and not letting our differences destroy our friendship.

I thank God for friends and I

Love you all

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