Mastering Ourselves
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Gal 5:22-23
On Tuesday’s discussion, right out of the gate, Doug made some comments about self-control. Thanks Doug, for pushing this forward. I have been pondering, jotting down some thoughts and praying about the fruits of the Spirit as listed in Galatians. I was going to get a series together before I started posting, and then they might come along quicker. I am so easily sidetracked it seems. But Doug got me thinking again and I decided to start with the last in the list of fruit since he brought it up and I feel strongly about it also.
All of the fruit are things that should be naturally growing in and out of us as we grow in our relationship with Christ. They are the visible attributes of truly walking the Christ centered walk. We are first saved and then as we grow in sanctification these nine things listed as fruit should start to become apparent in our lives.
Self control is listed last but I don’t believe it is any less or more than the others with the exception of possibly love. But if I stay in reverse order then love will be last. Self control is a good starting point because it is needed so very much in the church today. And it needs to be properly understood.
We live in a time and a place, if you are in America, where we are lost in our self-centeredness and materialistic view of life. The war between the flesh and the spirit is raging in all of us to some degree. It is so easy to look at everything we do with the attitude of ‘what’s in it for me.’ This is diametrically opposed to the servant attitude we should have. It is why the world looks at us and sees no difference between us and them.
A well known speaker or preacher that demands a $10,000.00 ‘offering’ or they can’t come, a Christian writer who lifts one catchy scripture out of context and sets up a whole new revelatory way of making our lives richer to sell a million copies of a book, a perpetually smiling preacher telling us how great we all have it in the Kingdom of God while we live on less per year than he spends on his dental hygienics; is this self control? Is this fruit of the spirit? I believe I would file it under self-centered greed.
The above examples show people that really aren’t even trying to have their spirits win the war against the flesh. But there are also those that try too hard in another wrong way. These we sometimes call legalists, fundamentalists, extreme conservatives. They try to find ways to make the Law of God, as listed in the Old Testament, or their own made up rules about many mundane parts of life, the methods of achieving and displaying self-control.
You may know a few of these people. They look at things like tattoos, jewelry, makeup, and the length of both men and women’s hair, as ways of establishing or determining self-control. There are many other things like alcohol consumption, smoking, dancing, card playing and others that make the list also. And to many of these people these are not only self control issues, they are salvific issues. A tattoo will send you to hell.
Then there are monks and other religious orders that simply take a person out of the world. This is also an attempt at self-control or a method of mastering ourselves. I even know of some people that declare that their own ‘personal convictions’ demand they do or don’t do certain things like watching TV or going to movies but that it is still okay for the rest of us. How gracious on their part. But do they have anymore self-control than I or are they just putting limits on their selves that keep them from actually growing this fruit called self-control.
God may not be honored in a lot of the things we do but we are living in a fallen world, occupied territory as it were, in a battle for our very lives. Jesus set us free from the Law because He fulfilled the Law. We are free in Christ but we must live in holiness, which is being separated from the world for service to Christ. All while an angry enemy roars all around us.
A tattoo is not going to stop that service but self control will dictate that we set some limits. Some jewelry or makeup will not send us screaming into hell because we had no self-control but the ability to know when we are making clowns of ourselves will display it to the world. On and on I could go but I don’t want to lose you.
The very ones who practice all these things and many more and say “look at me, I have self-control”, are only living a life of rules and regulations that show no one but themselves any hint of self control. True self-control is finding that line that separates self-centeredness from service-centeredness; and staying on the side of service.
We have to realize we do have to set limits. But I believe those limits will be dictated to a certain degree on our place of service, our area of ministry. A person might have just the right amount of tattoos, piercings, or long hair to reach a group of lost bikers or youth.
Jesus ate and drank wine with miserable lowlife sinners and did not get drunk or sin in any way they did. But He had a mission to go to them and tell them the good news. We have that same mission so how are those that never associate with anyone but those of like-legalistic-mind, accomplishing their mission.
Jesus called a man to be a disciple named Matthew and he was a tax collector. Jesus also called a man named Simon who was a Zealot. As far as the Jews were concerned Matthew was an extreme, unpatriotic traitor and Simon was an extreme, patriotic loyalist. They should have killed each other but instead they loved each other and became servants to Christ and to us all.
That is mastering one’s self. That is self-control.
Love you all
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Children have always loved my wife with abandon and she loves and relates to them so well that I am in danger of covetousness. I want that and am starting to actually need it. One night in the revival last week, a little girl that is usually all over my wife, came and sat beside me while my wife was practicing singing. She was sitting next to me and playing, making faces and other kid stuff, and I was just doing my best to respond. And probably not doing very well.

